Happiest Hour in Phoenix

Ok, so now that I’m  officially 31 and my life resembles a fine blend of Leslie Mann and Katherine Heigl’s character in Knocked Up, I’m moving on to Happy Hours and retiring the club heels/BPM/vodka-redbulls for good. Why? Well, glad you asked. Because when else can you put in work and sneak away to get amazing cocktails/apps for like a fraction of the price and still be home for dinner with the family?

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Last week, I made it over to The Gladly for the first time. They had this salad on their happy hour menu (YES, a salad on a HH menu!) and a person that was with us kept raving about how great it was. A couple minutes later, the runner brought the salad and listed the ingredients: smoked lox, arugula, dried corn, pepitas and currants, Israeli  cous-cous, bruschetta tomatoes and a creamy basil ranch. When he said that, I literally thought to myself “on what planet would that be good?” & then I tried it. & then I ate pretty much all of it. & then I ordered one to take home. It was SO delicious. Also, it’s $1 this week during HH. You’re welcome. Visit the Facebook page here (yup, the salad not the restaurant’s FB page).

9 MONTHS WITH P

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WEIGHT: 20.9 LBS 5 OZ HEIGHT: 27.5 IN

What She’s Wearing: Children’s Place Denim Vest (similar here), Old NayTop (here)  Old Navy Bottoms (similar here) & Headband (here) All of these items were on SALE 🙂

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Clothing Size:  Def only buying 12 months and up! It’s just easier to have clothes a tad bit bigger rather than  cutting off the circulation in her legs. As you can see, lil P has chubby thighs and we’ve had to say goodbye to a lot of her 9 month clothes for that very reason–and I’m a HUGE fan on spandex shorts so that’s what I’m stocking up on at the moment.

Diaper Size:  4’s. Changing a diaper on a 9 month old is challenging, there’s a lot of twisting, turning and grabbing on to anything in sight–so I’ve learned the bigger the diaper the easier! I still use cloth time from time,  to be honest, I’ve just gotten a little lazy with it. I’ve luckily just had diapers from the shower I’ve been using so once I run low I’ll probably go back to cloth.

Milestones: I just got back from her 9 month check up, and as confident as I was about where she was at with her milestones–it just took a huge dive when I was filling out the survey checking the no or sometimes boxes. Unlike other babies her age, Presley has only recently started crawling within the last couple of weeks. She got around by maneuvering crawls, rolls and standing up, but now she’s finally crawling pretty consistently. She has more interest in walking, so we’ll hope for that. However, when she’s on the move, she’s incredibly fast! If I leave her in one area of the house, she ends up 10 feet away in a matter of seconds. She can clap with objects, and she is starting to pull herself up on to things. I tried to get her to climb up our stairs and she was mildly freaked out by it (which is good because I cringe at the thought of her using them as she gets older). She talks non-stop, babbles, screams, and sings. She mimics things and people, and she is just FULL of personality. She sits up pretty well from a laying down position and she seems very strong (considering I’m kicked by her non-stop). She also wrecks havoc wherever she goes, especially when I carry her on my side (she recently took down hanging pictures in the hallway and knocked Sergio’s mug off the table). Honestly, she seems like she’s a different person every morning, and is definitely keeping our hands full.

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Sleeping:  This is hard to tell, girlfriend has 4 teeth coming in. Sleeping has been off. She’s currently taking her second nap of the day. She wakes up around 7:30 in the morning and naps 2-3 times a day (depending on the length of the nap), and because I work late (I work until 7), she goes to sleep later (around 7:30-8:30). She doesn’t sleep through the night, she wakes 1-2 times in the night to feed. #nursinggamestrong #thatsajokebecauseI’msooverofnursing

Teeth:  Her two bottom teeth are grown in, & she currently has 2 teeth about halfway out and two more coming in. The two that have popped through and midway grown in are her top right front tooth and her right incisor (which is super early for her–typically they come in around 16-18 months). The two that are shy under her gums are the matching left teeth. She has been itching her ears a lot and seems a little cranky today, safe to assume her teeth are bothering her. Also, the doctor I go to recommended using flouride toothpaste on her, which I’m still on the fence whether I should use it or not because most all infant toothpaste is fluoride free–do any parents have an opinion on this? I’m using natural toothpaste since she straight up swallows it. 

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Talking:  I swear she said Hi today! She babbles & she laughs when I mimic animal sounds. She seems to respond to conversation, especially when I tell her “excuse you,” or “bless you.” She seems fascinated by whistling and she talks, screams, sings almost always when she’s not being played with (like when she’s in the car or when I’m writing this blog). She is def talkative. She loves to use her tongue to make rolling L noises (if that makes sense), and when she cries she uses those sounds the most. She also knows how to use her hand in front of her mouth to manipulate sounds.

Favorite Activities:  Her grandmother takes her to the Science Museum, Children’s Museum, Water Park, PHX Zoo, Wildlife Zoo, Aquarium, and Natural History Museum on a weekly basis. I commend her, because I haven’t even been to all those places with her! She’s very lucky in that sense. Above all, she LOVES being in water! For her 9 month birthday, we went to the water park since it seems to be her favorite. We’ve also gone to classes held at the Children’s Museum that help give great ideas for toddler development (they’re pretty cheap, if not free–see here). Splash pads are a big hit with the AZ heat! She likes to be independent (obvs if you know me, you know she got that from me). She enjoys sitting with us at the dinner table, she likes to feed herself (poorly), and move around at her free will. I’m currently in the hunt for baby proof items for the house–feel free to throw out any advice because I’m sort of learning as I go which sucks because you often find out with tears from your baby. Worst. Feeling. Ever.

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Foods: She loves to eat! I’m still nursing and she still supplements with formula. She eats pretty much everything from chicken, tuna, fruits and veggies, noodles, cheese, yogurt. We definitely know to give her avocado and prunes sparingly (I’ll spare you the details), and she really hasn’t been too picky of an eater. I’m currently trying to get her to use a straw. It’s become an obsession.

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8 Months with P

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What She’s Wearing: Gap Baby Top (similar here)  Gap Baby Bottoms (similar here) & Headband (Hobby Lobby)

Clothing Size:  Only buying 12 mos now, she’s growing TOO fast! Although girlfriend’s shoe size is still not quite a 2, yeah as in 3-6 mo size, which means she’s basically a size 1 still. True def of baby feet.

Diaper Size:  3’s for now–but I’m sure I could do 4’s anytime. I installed a sprayer to wash the cloth diapers, hoping that it makes it easier–still a hybrid diaper mom. I think it just depends on the day.

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Milestones: She makes kissy sounds,  says “mama” and “dada” but her “mamas” are always mixed in with  her cries. She can stand up, but bareeeeeely pulls herself up with help from a person or with pillows. She hasn’t crawled yet but she leans down and stops because I think it scares her, & she cannot sit still (hence these in-motion snapshots).  She babbles, sings, and knows how to kiss (with an open mouth). She really likes the mirror & seems to gets sassier by the day, I love it.

Sleeping:  She’s been pushing her bedtime and waking up earlier. I set my alarm for 5:30 and sometimes she wakes up with me or quickly thereafter. I try to tell her about how amazing sleep is, but she continues to wake up early 😦

Teeth:  TWO bottom teeth! They are just adorable (but sharp as hell) and making me want to quit nursing. As for now, I’m pumping at work so the idea of pumping exclusively sounds exhausting. Oh, also, warning to new moms: trying to teach a 7-8 month old not to bite is tough, I’ve made her cry a couple times and then I’m left feeling like a jerk because I know she’s just in pain from teething.

Talking:  She talks, about what, I’m not sure. She screams, too. She’s very vocal. Today, she had a class and she was the only baby chatting and singing in the class. I hope she always stays fearless.

Favorite Activities:  She loves the water, in fact, she’s been swimming a lot with her Mimi! It’s super hot in AZ so it seems like she really loves splash pads, the waterpark or playing in any kind of water (bath time, too). She’s also a frequent visitor of the zoo, aquarium, and Children’s Museum–she’s very active in Phoenix. I work full-time, so her Mimi (or grandmother) takes her to all these fun places.  She still loves animals, & tries to feed them so they love her just as much. Oh and speaking of, she loves eating!

Foods: She’s had every fruit/veggie I could think of (today she had beets) and I’ve introduced yogurt and cheese. I have yet to try meat, but I bet her meals will change a lot in the next month once we introduce “meals.” She loves apples & pears, so I usually mix those with everything (beets, kale, carrots to name a few), she finally gave in to peas, has yet to like green beans though. She seems to eat anything we give her. We give her celery to teeth on, and I think the funniest thing I’ve seen her eat is pickles! SHE LOVES PICKLES! She also enjoys those yogurt snacks, kale teething biscuits, & those O snacks. It’s the best to try and watch her feed herself. Sprouts has amazing/healthy/organic snacks, I buy most of her food there.

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7 months with P

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What She’s Wearing: Koala Baby Top (here)  Bottoms (here) & Old Navy jellies (similar here)

Clothing Size:  Onesies and Jumpers are about all of the 6 month clothes she can still wear, and  I’m running out of room for her outgrown baby clothes.

Diaper Size:  Okay, first & foremost, THANK GOODNESS girlfriend poops less because breastfed poop is SO much easier to deal with than real food/formula poop. I’ve experienced a whole new world of blowouts, two times I pretty much threw her in the bathtub still strapped in her carseat (just kidding, CPS). One day was after avocados (never again) and I had just picked her up after work and we went to Sprouts to grab stuff for dinner. After shopping, I went to put her back in the carseat and there was a brown puddle in the carseat base. Which means I had been leaving a trail the entire time I was there (sorry)! Another time at Sprouts (I want to love you Sprouts, but you make it hard), I went to take her out of the carseat and my hand was covered in..well, you get it..It’s gross. Cloth diapering is much harder than before, but I’m staying strong.

Milestones: Still can’t flip front to back, but she can sit up, sit, and stand for short periods of time. She can grab things, pass them between hands and I’m hoping she claps soon. Her godmother is teaching her sign language, so I’m hoping to jump on that bandwagon and sign away with her.

Sleeping:  She sleeps pretty regularly. She’s sleeping on my arms as I type this, swoon. I know I’ll miss these moments the most.

Teeth:  One nub, it’s out completely but it’s yet to come up (it’s been like 3 weeks). It’s also huge.

Talking:  She has her consonants down, a whole lot of dada going on. Which if you ask me is rude, but whatever–haha. I just keep throwing the M’s at her.

Favorite Activities:  She loves dogs (apparently all animals), she giggles at them and when the wind blows on her face. She loves putting everything in her mouth and loves iPhones, iPads and even computers. She threw a tantrum today because I wouldn’t let her a) chew on the wire b) punch the keyboard or c) pull the power cord out of my laptop. Other than  that she loves being outdoors, and playing with her toys. She seems to enjoy her bath time and spending time with her family. She got a chance to go to the beach last month, and she loved that, too.

I’ll leave a behind the scenes on how hard it is to get one good picture, enjoy ❤

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Six Months with P

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WEIGHT: 17 LBS 5 OZ HEIGHT: 26.5 IN

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What she’s wearing: Baby Gucci (gift, sold here)

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Clothing Size: 6-9 months,  9 months still run a little big on her.
Diaper Size: 2/3. Using the 2’s we have left (again, she uses cloth most of the time).
Milestones: For her 6 month birthday, she got cereal! I gave her oatmeal made with my milk so she likes that (for obvious reasons). I bought two kinds, but she seems to like Earth’s Best more. I also give her a DHA supplement (Honest) and give her Vitamin D drops. Since I’ve gone back to work I used all my back up milk and now I have to supplement with formula (around 4-6 oz on the days I work). For formula, I bought Honest formula. I did research and it’s just a trustworthy company that I’m willing to give all my money to, ha.
Teeth: No teeth (but we found a nub somewhere between 6-7 months). I was told at my 6 month Dr. appt. to brush her teeth with fluoride toothpaste, but I’m not sure how I feel about that since ALL baby toothpastes are fluoride free and there’s pros/cons for both sides that leaves me somewhere in the middle, for now I brush 2x a day with a natural toothpaste (that she can swallow if she does).
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Routine:  She goes to bed around 7/8, I aim for 7 but depending on the night (and if she has a bath), she’s usually going to bed closer to 8. I wake her up around 6:45 to get her ready because I leave for work sometime early 7. She naps around 10 and again in the afternoon. She’s pretty consistent (as I type she has yet to take her second nap, ha).
Sleeping: She has yet to sleep through the night, and not in the nursery yet..
Eating/Feeding: She has tried cereal (oatmeal) and some veggies for now.

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Fun Moments: Pres went swimming for the first time, she’s also graduated to real baths where she likes to splash a lot. She spends a lot of time with her godmother (grandmother) and chews about everything. She grows so quickly, she’s like a new baby every day.

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5 months with P

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What she’s wearing: Carter’s Collection (here) on sale! 

Clothing Size: 6 months, but I’ve been shopping lately so I’ve been getting her a lot of 9 months so she can grow in to them rather than grow out of them. I’ve officially tossed aside all of her 3 months clothes.
Diaper Size: 2, but she’s using cloth 90% of the time. We only use disposable when I take her out, since it’s easier on me but I imagine I’ll be using disposable less & less. Cloth is super easy, I’m still trying to figure out which brand I like the best.
Milestones: Gosh, she’s developing a BIG personality. She is getting to know familiar faces, she really loves her dad (not going to lie, I’m sort of jealous).She loves her exersaucer and is just learning that she can jump on it for more fun. She loves her fur brother, Ace and is always reaching out for him when he’s close and laughing at him, while our other pup is still boycotting the baby, ha. She loves being outside (as long as she’s out of the sun), and loves to have conversations. She can roll over back to tummy, but has yet to roll back. She can sit up fine with her bumba but it still not 100% at sitting up by herself.
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Teeth: No teeth, but you can tell she’s bothered by them shifting around underneath her gums and she’s always wanting to chew on a finger (hers or yours)
Routine:  Our routine is a little out of whack right now, I go back to work next week so we’re trying to find a schedule we can stick to once I start.
Sleeping: She has yet to sleep through the night, and not in the nursery yet. I’m working on it!
Eating/Feeding: She is still breastfeeding exclusively. I think we’ll introduce foods next month, what should I give her for her birthday?? Judging by how easily she takes probiotic/vitamin D supplements/infant Tylenol/gripe water, I think she’s going to LOVE food.

Fun Moments: We went to a day game (albeit it was a little too warm), but she got to see the Giants play. She’s also gotten to go a lot of places, since she’s a super easy wing-woman for me. I’m trying to squeeze in as much play dates before I go back to work.

 

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Self-Victimization

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The greatest lesson I have learned in my 30 Years of life is: stop playing the victim card.

Oh lawdy, if I could rewind my life to my early twenties I would have saved so much time, money & energy that I wasted on blaming other people for my own shortcomings. I imagine some of you may read this and have never struggled with this, while others may read this without ever leaving the blame game as you continue to find excuses for your lack of success. What I hope is that I resonate with anyone that was like me, and without going all Tony Robbins on you, is tell you that YOU are in charge of every aspect of your life, & if it’s bad, it’s probably because you let it get bad.

“That was way harsh, Ty”

I don’t mean to be frank, but darlin’, you have the potential to be the best.

As I reflected this past year, for what seemed like the first time ever, I was actually sad to see it go. I kept seeing these posts on Instagram or Facebook that more of less said “Sayonara 2014! Good Riddance, Bring it on 2015!” Although I did graduate college and have a baby (two major life milestones) in 2014, I can promise you that I had just as much of the sweet as the sour in those 365 days. I had moments where my entire world changed in the blink of an eye, I had heartbreak (oh man, did I have heartbreak) but I also experienced so much love, love greater than I could ever imagine receiving. As this year came to a close, I just felt content. However, it wasn’t always like that. I was usually front row aboard the “new year, new me,” bandwagon.

So I’m about to get real, real with you. I’m going to tell you things I never wanted the world-wide web to know about, but that lonely place at the bottom? I’ve been there, and I got myself out once I decided to take responsibility for my failures. I got this painful lesson a couple of years ago when I was living in Los Angeles. I was hardly making enough money to cover my bills, struggling like so many people in LA do, and within one month’s span I managed to get a DUI, lost my job, found out that I owed the State of Nevada a thousand dollars for a fix-it ticket and managed to get in TWO car accidents. The crazy thing, I remember blaming that entire string of events on other people, and chopped it up to simply having bad luck.

All of those events, newsflash, were sort of my fault.

“The DUI wasn’t my fault..”

I legitimately said those words because this was my logic: I had gotten pulled over for making an “aggressive left hand turn” when there were no other cars on the road. I had stopped drinking hours before I got behind the wheel. I only had a couple of glasses of wine. I blew a .08. The cops were out to get me.

What I was forgetting: I drank and got behind the wheel, end of story.

Although I have never been a drunk driver (usually it was me wrestling the keys out of my intoxicated friend’s hands), I did think it was 100% okay to have a glass of wine or two and drive home. What I didn’t realize was that was a pretty nasty habit that deserved to change.

There was an elephant in the room that I was IGNORING: I had money problems & People DIDn’t owe ME anything.

After my DUI (& the 5k it cost me), I went to my parents for money. I was pissed when they said no.

I remember complaining to my friend about how they should help me out during this rough time. After all, they had the money and I felt they owed that to me. My friend sort of got quiet then said, “You’re 26, you’re an adult, and you’re too old to have to depend on your parents.” Just like that, I realized she was totally right.

To be honest, 95% of that bad luck had to do with my finances. I wasn’t planning ahead for hard times & I was living outside my means. Boy, that lesson was hard to digest.

As for the other 5%? No one owed me anything. My parents didn’t need to bail me out. My friends and family didn’t owe me a single thing. If I wanted to change my luck, I had to do something about it.

After playing the victim to my problems, my finances got so out of control that I had to sell my car. I literally rode my bike &  took the bus everywhere. This kind of became my rock bottom (or perhaps it was that creepy homeless man who harassed me at a Hollywood bus  stop) that finally encouraged me to take a good, hard look at how blaming everyone else for my problems was only holding me back.

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So this is what I did:

I made a vision board in my head. No really. I took what I was insecure about and figured out how I could change it. It was that year that I went back to school and started to save money that actually helped pay for me to finish my undergrad at ASU. I stopped my compulsive shopping habit (swapping designer labels for Old Navy), and I went out and got sh*t done. I spent the next three years fixing my problems and even though I’m still not where I want to be, at least I’ve worked my ass off trying to get there.

And the best part?

That low point five years ago was the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

So, next time you are in this constant stage of trying to catch a break, stop for a second & take a look at your life. Why aren’t you where you want to be? Who are you blaming for your problems? If you have an excuse or you throw shade at another person, you’re only holding yourself back from maximum potential.

My sophomore English teacher  once relayed some Star Wars ideology on me, he told me “do or do not, there is no try,” so Yoda & Mr. Clymo–thank you, I just wished I would have listened to you both a whole lot sooner.

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